My 3 Year Old Hates His Baby Brother
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3 year old has no interest in baby brother
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So my iii.5 yr former doesn't accept much interest in his 7 month old brother. He's non unkind to him, simply ignores him 90% of the fourth dimension. Information technology breaks my centre equally my little 1 only adores his blood brother and gazes at him all solar day. Occasionally when they are left lonely I take hold of my older one interacting with his brother but he doesn't practise it in front of us weirdly!
I attempt to requite them both loads of time and do all the usual things but I estimate im merely worried he'll never bond with his lilliputian brother 😢 It makes me sad and worried.
Has anyone else been in the same situation?
It sounds normal to me.
Give them a few more years and they'll love playing together.
We take the aforementioned age gap and a volume called Zaza's Babe Blood brother helped - it'southward about feeling left out when all the attention is on the new baby, but then playing with the baby and finding out it is fun. Little babies are non very exciting for busy preschoolers, I think things get better when the baby starts to practise more than.
My friend has two girls aged 5 and 2. 5 year old ignores the 2 year old well-nigh of the time and rarely plays with her or engages with her at all. Sometimes gets furious with her and starts shouting well-nigh how she wishes she didn't take a sister etc. No idea if their relationship will develop over time merely you can't really strength these things.
Totally normal. I know this sounds harsh but it really isn't. In you 3yo optics your baby is pretty like to a toy. He will play with him occasionally then ignore him for the residual of the fourth dimension.
Don't worry nigh it - when they're older and fighting you'll be wondering how to split them! 
I think that'south just how information technology is in many families. There'southward probably nothing you lot can do to speed information technology up, simply it will improve with time.
Relax op, don't let your great break over it.
I was an doting little sister to an indifferent eldest, and we are and so close in adulthood. I thought m my big sister was the last give-and-take in glamour, dazzler, and other -worldliness. She thought I was a dull chatterbox. I still adored her.
I think you lot're expecting abit much of your three year sometime!
He volition be interested in him when he can play with him properly until then he isn't that interesting to a 3 yr old.
I take a 4.5 year gap and ds1 pretty much ignored ds2 for almost eight/9 months and then in the terminal half-dozen weeks they have all of a sudden started to play together more. I think now that ds2 tin can empathise games similar rolling the ball, chases and tin can go around ds1 has found some mutual ground before he didn't know how to play with someone who didn't give much back. They are getting closer calendar week past week.
I think babies get more interesting for older siblings when they can practice stuff like walk and talk. My kids all pretty much ignored their younger siblings until they got to about 12 months. They are all now huge friends and like goose egg better than to spend time with each other.
What Orangepear said - pocket-size babies are not very exciting to a walking, talking 3 year one-time.
I found this when both DS2 and DS3 were babies, the older ones were quite nice to them, every bit in didn't hit them, but it was at near 6 months that they actually started to find them interesting, around the time when the infant could start responding to silly faces and games. A laughing, reacting babe got a lot more than attention from older brothers than a sleeping, feeding blob. I institute it quite upsetting to first with that the baby was and so ignored, but it improved quite quickly, and they are great friends now ( teen and adults).
Mine are starting to play together increasingly now at 6 & 2.8 when non competing for who can be first, but DD1 definitely ignored Dd2 most of the time for the first 6 months or so -when she wasn't jumping over her or every bit dangerous things!
Try to run into him ignoring him equally a expert thing - at this age you lot could be dealing with a lot of jealousy and resentment so if your 3yo is getting on with his life unruffled by his younger sibling, that is a positive!
With my 3yo and 3mo I try to employ the baby as a fashion to praise and give attention to the eldest - "oh DS2, look how clever DS1 is, one day he will be able to show y'all how to build a tower like that!" etc. Nosotros also talk a lot about when DS1 was a baby and do babe office play (holding him like a babe, baby voices etc), and talk about how DS2 will get bigger and learn new things but similar he did. Mostly this is to try to nip any jealousy in the bud, but hopefully will help him feel closer to his brother too.
Cheers everyone for the replies, it's put my mind at rest. All my friends kids seemed to adore they're siblings when they came along then that'south all I've had to go along!
That's normal!
To a 3yo, a infant is mildly interesting every now so, otherwise a bit boring. Pushing him to 'care' more is likely to lead to resentment, but showing him how to play with the baby eg tickling, singing? And explain that soon baby volition be on the movement and not empathize his toys and effort chewing and throwing them, so he'll have to put important ones away and devide what he's happy to share.
From the fourth dimension dd could toddle and interact, she and three.5y older ds have got on very well - mostly!
Normal. They volition likely get on worse for a flow when ds2 becomes mobile and starts interfering with ds1's toys (and starts developing a will of his own) and then it just gets better and meliorate.
Fair enough, I'd have said. If your DP brings a new wife into the house, will you want to be her friend?
It's not quite the aforementioned thing though, is it fries? I dont call back the OP broke any vows of allegiance by having a second kid.
A 3 yr former child is merely near the about egotistic creature on earth. A seven month old doesn't pose much involvement to them. This is totally normal.
Of class it's the aforementioned affair. As an only child, you think you are everything to your parents. And then they bring along another one and you have to accept the back seat because you're older. It'south non fun. Have some empathy with the child.
Mine are 4 and 18 months and fight constantly. Enjoy the ignoring (and relative quiet) while it lasts!
I have a iii year gap. They are at present just turned 6 and just turned 3. For first year and half or possibly almost 2, older ane tolerated/ignored the younger.
They now play together for hours, the older makes up all sorts of imaginary games and the younger plays along, they fight every bit well, but play together a lot. Just give it fourth dimension
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